The Relationship Counsellor

When you get suspicious that your significant other is cheating, be careful not to appear to be paranoid. You have to walk a fine line — you don't want to make false accusations. So, while I'm sharing this list of cheating red flags, I concede that it's a tricky situation. It's hard to be sure if someone's cheating, but protect yourself: Be vigilant, and pay attention to your mind and spirit within the relationship. But, at the same time, be careful not to let anxiety lead the way because unnecessary paranoia will just drive your lover away. Here are some red flags that may signal that your significant other is cheating: 1. Less Sex Unless he's Superman, he can only have so much sex. So, if he's getting it from another source, you might notice. Whether it's another woman or a porn addiction — even if he's not cheating — a decrease in sex signals serious issues in the relationship. 2. Jumpy Cell Phone Habits In a perfect world, we

1. “To let the lips talk” After talking and using so many words, kissing is a way we expess intimacy that no words can articulate. 2. “It is a sign of pleasure” We close our eyes every time we are experiencing something pleasurable; when we listen to a beautiful song, when we pray, when we worship, when we sleep, when having an orgasm, when drinking sweet chocolate. 3. “It is a sign of trust” You don’t have to be eyes-wide opened and on the look out when you are in a place of trust and security. 4. “It heightens pleasure” When one of your five senses is blocked, the other senses are heightened in function; ask the blind, the deaf or dumb. When you close your eyes when kissing, your sense of touch that connects your lips is heightened. You concentrate on the sweetness of the lips.

Often times you stay in a relationships knowing it would eventually die off. This happens because you enter into relationships overlooking your partner's flaws and shortcomings, with hope that things would turn out better in time. This is simply settling for less than you deserve out of fear of being alone or because you can predict life with this person. Still wondering what the signs are? Here are 5 things that show your relationship is wrong for you according to Huffington Post relationship experts: 1. You are stuck in a fantasy of who your partner should be rather than looking at who they really are:  It's easy to overlook your partner's flaws and incompatibilities at the start of a relationship but it's advisable to stop fantasizing and see your partner for who they are. 2. You and your partner don't share personal goals that are alike in any way:  When you don't believe in each other's dreams, it can spell a big problem for your relationship.

It’s amazing the number of couples who leap into a long term and legal commitment together without talking through the serious issues of managing a life together. Often, caught up in the rush of intense feelings for one another, couples only find out after they’ve made a huge commitment to one another that in fact, they may have some fundamentally different beliefs and approaches to key aspects of life. You can still be a great match for one another but still have very different views and beliefs. This is why it’s important to make sure you’ve thoroughly discussed future issues now, rather than before you  make the commitment . You can be surer of being ready to make that commitment if you at least talk through this much: 1. What are you deal breakers? Do you each know where your boundaries are? What will betray the other? What you absolutely will not put up with? Know those and know them well. Doing this enables you both to know the expectations you have of one another and how

If you have plans to take a shot at the future with your partner, then there are some kinds of temptations you need to avoid at at all cost. Some of these things come at the beginning of your relationship while other things may be in the later stages when you become both used to each other. You may be guilty of falling into these unhealthy patterns in your relationship, but you can always do a double-check and declare a fresh start for you and your partner. Alicia Fanning of All Women Stalk  lists a few of these things you may be guilty of doing: Moving to fast:  One temptation at the #beginning of a relationship is to move too fast. Give yourself #time to decide if you like this guy. He may not be what he seems at first. Give your #relationship time to bloom naturally. It’s always better when #things happen the way they’re meant to instead of being forced along. If you’ve already moved too fast, you can still choose to slow down now. Making him your whole world:  I think

1. You can never ever have the best of sex outside of marriage. . 2. Only sex with your husband or wife is a sexual intercourse without shame and regret. . 3. There is always a string which the devil uses pulls you to your sexual partners if you keep in touch with them after marriage. . 4. The memories of all your sexual escapades have a way of resurfacing when you are having sex with your spouse. .