The Relationship Counsellor

Most first dates are awkward because both people don not have anything to say to each other. Doesn't matter if you have a crush on your date or not, your conversation should be engaging and interesting enough. An engaging conversation makes you both comfortable to share a few not-too-personal but still personal information but still light enough not to cause embarrassment, arguments or other bad feelings. So for those who are going on a first date,  Jelena Jovanovic  of All Women Stalk  lists several interesting suggestions to discuss:

Ending a relationship is one of the hardest decisions to come to in life. This is because there are a lots of things to worry about, fears that exist in the relationship and problems to conquer but none of this beats that which comes with breaking up the relationship. This is because your mind is filled with doubts on whether or not you are making the right decision. You’re thinking if the relationship is the right one that you need to fight for and if you’d regret throwing it away. You don’t know if you’re over exaggerating the problems you have and if you let this one go, you don’t know if you’d ever find love again. These questions are those everyone that is on the verge of breaking up a relationship asks. Some even go on to ask if they’d ever be with a member of the opposite sex again, if they are jinxed to be alone or if they are too choosy in their choice of a partner. While we can’t tell you if that relationship you’re in will last a lifetime, we can categori...

Men are not as predictable as we think they are. Yes, they want beautiful women that can turn heads, complete with the perfect curves in the right places but that’s not all they desire in a woman, especially one they want to spend the rest of their lives with. The quality they want in a woman is not reliant upon the fact that she is a beauty queen or the brightest kid on the block. You can be so beautiful and so intelligent and still not get a man that will be interested in spending forever with you.  So, beauty and brains may be enough to get the man but will never be enough to keep man. These are some of the attributes a woman should posses in order to keep her man; they are qualities every man looks out for in the woman they eventually want to end up with:

It only took a few counseling sessions to realize I’d spent most of my adult life married to a narcissist. And that I'd completely lost my perspective along the way. A narcissistic person believes the world revolves around them, that they are primary and others secondary. They don't feel empathy. They hold themselves in high esteem and get very defensive when challenged. If you think you might be married to a narcissist, check out these  10 signs you're in a relationship with a narcissist  - if you are, like me, it will be obvious. 

Several months ago, my husband and I separated. I was blindsided. He, for all practical purposes, dumped me after 17 years of marriage. As I reached out for support, I found women with similar stories. There were some who knew it was coming, and those who initiated it. Either way, it’s a gut-wrenching, life changing event. I write this from recent experience and from talking with friends. I have also heard cautionary tales from women who are years out, far beyond  the trenches,  as I call them.

MARCH 9, 2015 In 4 months I’ve cried more that I’ve ever cried in years….. But the triumph of my poetry is stronger than my tears….. Love is like a home… No matter how far you go You can always come back And the love you had there Will love you right back

MARCH 31, 2015 I couldn’t think, I couldn’t eat I couldn’t work, I couldn’t sleep When I drank, my tears would seep through my face, my hurt is deep. I couldn’t breath, I couldn’t smile I haven’t laughed in quite while The night you left I ran a mile My grieving process skipped denial