7 tips on how to handle confrontations without falling apart

No human life is confrontation free, we all have to face them at one point in our existence on earth.

So what do you do when you can't avoid confrontation especially if you're the type who runs away from trouble like a plaque or you break down easily when confronted.

Holly Riordan of All Women Stalk lists 7 tips on how to be calm and cool when faced with this kind of situation:

1. Stick to the topic at hand: If you approached your #boyfriend to complain about how he's always late for dates, then don’t veer off topic by bringing up something hurtful he did years ago that you should've forgiven him for already. If you bring up tons of different topics at once, the original one might be swept under the rug. Plus, the more bad memories you bring up, the bigger your chances are of starting a huge fight you didn't mean to start.
2. It's usually not personal: If your boss fires you, it doesn't mean that she hates you. She might've been forced by her boss to make some cuts. She might've been informed that you did something that's against policy. Either way, it's likely not her #way of telling you she can't stand you. She's just doing her job.
   
3. Remember you can cry later: There's nothing wrong with crying. It helps you release your emotions so you can go through life happy again. However, it can be embarrassing to cry in the midst of an argument. In fact, it will typically make you lose that argument. That's why you should hold back your tears by remembering that you'll be able to cry all you want later. Just don't do it in the middle of a #confrontation.
4. Keep good posture: You've heard that smiling can trick your brain into thinking that you're happy. That's why you should stand up straight and speak confidently during a confrontation, in order to trick yourself into believing #everything is okay. If you mumble or let your voice waver, it'll show how upset you are, which can lead right to tears.
5. Rehearse what you are going to say: If you're going to start a confrontation, plan out what you're going to say ahead of #time. Think about all of the ways the other person could respond and come up with answers to them. That way, you'll be prepared for whatever is thrown at you. It's much easier to keep your cool when you have a conversation all figured out before it even begins.
6. Talk in private: If you're initiating the confrontation, don't do it in public. Instead of yelling at your boss during a meeting, bring up your issues when you're alone in her office. Even if the other person starts a confrontation with you in a room full of #people, ask them to step outside with you so you can talk in private. You'll feel more comfortable talking about your feelings when you don't have an audience watching your every move.
7. Walk away: If the person you're confronting gets vicious, you don't have to stay in the room and take their abuse. You have every right to walk away from the conversation, even when they're in the middle of speaking. Sometimes a person will get caught up in the moment and say something that they don't mean. While they might be angry at you for leaving at first, they'll be happy in the long run, because it stopped them from saying more hurtful #things.