The Relationship Counsellor

A young man asked if he could marry while in College. He said, “I am 22 years old College student. I dated a girl for over 2 years. We had a lot of fun together. We studied together as well. My family advised me to go and marry her because she was afraid that we might have sex before marriage. Both of us work part-time. Our collective salaries even do not suffice us if we move to a new apartment on our own. I am thinking to get married while I am still living with my mom and siblings.” Thousands of College students face the same dilemma every year if they can get married while in College or wait until after graduation. Sometimes there’s a lot of pressure coming from families who are afraid of those young partners to indulge in sex outside of marriage. Some girls’ families as well may be afraid of seeing their daughter get knocked up while still in College. I also see a lot of younger couples who got married and behave like mature enough. They never skip a class. They a...

Most people procrastinate in executing certain tasks. Some justify their delayed performance by various explanations while others berate themselves and are perplexed about the reasons for their self-hindering habits. Many people assume that their procrastination is due to the tasks being boring, burdensome, unpleasant or difficult. Others maintain that they do so because it is a required, not a volitional choice and thus it impedes their autonomy. Some claim that boredom, or fears of failure may sway them from timely performance. Others resent trading unsatisfying activities for soothing, pleasing or enjoyable ones. Though all these reasons may be occasionally correct they are not the true causes of procrastination. What does propel us to continue delaying some actions in spite of grave or even punitive consequences?